Affirmations for motivation

Joel Dean
Joel Dean, Founder of Joyful

"I am unstoppable" tends to wear off by Wednesday. Motivation affirmations last longer when they remind you of your own reason for starting, in your own words: "I'm doing this because it matters to me, not because I should." Goals people pursue for their own reasons get more sustained effort.1

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For when starting feels harder than it should. If none of them feels true, write your own.

If saying an affirmation makes you feel worse, let it go. That's common, and a smaller, truer sentence may fit better. If you're thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 in the US, or see crisis resources.

Six affirmations for motivation

  1. "I'm doing this because it matters to me, not because I should." It swaps pressure for a reason.
  2. "I don't need to feel like it to start for five minutes." Starting is the hard part. Five minutes is small enough to say yes to.
  3. "Ten minutes today is still ten minutes." For the days when the full plan isn't going to happen.
  4. "I can make the hard part a little more enjoyable." A nod to the gym study below.
  5. "Rest is part of how I keep going." Motivation also runs out when you never stop.
  6. "I've kept going before when I didn't feel like it." It points at proof you already have.

Pick one and put it where the task starts, on your running shoes, the lid of your laptop or the first page of the notebook, so you read it at the moment you'd otherwise talk yourself out of starting.

What is one thing you've been putting off? Finish this sentence about it: "I want to do this because..." Then name the first five minutes.

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More lines for motivation

Fourteen more, for four sticking points: the start, the middle, the day after a miss, and the long haul.

Getting started

  • "The first step can be tiny. Opening the file counts."
  • "I can start messy."
  • "I can do the version of this that fits today."
  • "Easiest piece first."

In the middle

  • "I'm halfway. That's further than the start."
  • "Short break. Then back."
  • "One more round."

After you've fallen off

  • "Missing a day doesn't erase the days I did."
  • "I can pick it back up today, without a lecture."
  • "Starting again is part of doing anything for a long time."
  • "Yesterday's plan was too big. Today's can be smaller."

For the long haul

  • "I'm doing this for the person I'll be next year."
  • "Slow progress is still progress."
  • "At the end of the month, I'll count what I did."

Your reason matters more than the hype

Researchers Kennon Sheldon and Andrew Elliot followed students through the goals they set. Goals that fit a person's own interests and values got more sustained effort and were more likely to be reached. Reaching them also left people happier than reaching goals set out of pressure or guilt.1

Self-determination theory, from Richard Ryan and Edward Deci, gives the wider picture. People stay motivated when they feel some choice in what they do, feel capable at it, and feel connected to others.2 A line that names your own reason hits the first of those.

Line 1 works best with your own words filled in. Try finishing this sentence: "I'm doing this because..."

  • I should go to the gym: I want to be able to carry my own groceries when I'm 70.
  • I have to finish this course: I want the job this course leads to.
  • I need to stop being lazy: I'm tired today. Ten minutes still counts.

Make the hard part easier to start

Behavioral scientist Katy Milkman tested a simple idea at a gym. Some people could only listen to gripping audiobooks they loved while working out. At first, they went to the gym 51% more often than a comparison group.3

The effect faded over the weeks, especially after the Thanksgiving break.3 Still, 61% of people later chose to pay to keep the arrangement.3 Pairing a "should" with a "want" won't carry you forever, but it can get you through the door.

That's line 4. Before a task you're avoiding, ask what you could pair with it: a playlist, a good coffee, a podcast you save for that hour.

"I've been putting off the tax paperwork for a month. I say: I don't need to feel like it to start for five minutes. I make a coffee, put on the album I like, and open the first envelope."

When low motivation is something else

Everyone has flat weeks.

If the flatness has spread to the things you usually enjoy and it won't lift, raise it with a doctor; the affirmations for depression page has lines for those days.

If the problem is mostly starting tasks, the procrastination guide may fit better.

Questions people ask about affirmations for motivation

What is a good affirmation for motivation?

One with a "because" close enough to picture. "Because health matters" is too far off to get you off the couch at 6 p.m. "Because I want to keep up with my kids on the trail this summer" is a scene you can see, and that's the version worth writing down.

How do I motivate myself when I have no motivation?

Shrink the start. Commit to five minutes, pair the task with something you enjoy, and remind yourself why it matters to you. Waiting to feel motivated first can mean waiting a long time.

Do motivational affirmations work?

Hype lines have little evidence behind them. Goals tied to your own reasons have better support, with more sustained effort in long-term studies.1 An if-then plan for when you'll start is another tool with good evidence, covered on the goal setting page.

Sources

  1. Sheldon KM, Elliot AJ. Goal striving, need satisfaction, and longitudinal well-being: the self-concordance model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 1999. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.76.3.482
  2. Ryan RM, Deci EL. Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist, 2000. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.55.1.68
  3. Milkman KL, Minson JA, Volpp KGM. Holding the Hunger Games hostage at the gym: an evaluation of temptation bundling. Management Science, 2014. https://doi.org/10.1287/mnsc.2013.1784